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Answer:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

All praise is due to Allah, and blessings and peace be upon His Messenger Muhammad, his family, and his Companions.

We have reviewed your detailed question concerning the conditional divorce (talaq mu‘allaq) pronounced by your husband. After careful consideration of the wording of the condition, your actions, and your state of mind, we issue the following fatwa based on the Qur’an, authentic hadith, and the principles of the Salaf (the early righteous scholars), specifically the opinions of Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah, Ibn al-Qayyim, Shaykh Ibn Baz, Shaykh al-Albani, Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, and Shaykh Salih al-Fawzan (may Allah have mercy on them all).

1. The Nature of the Conditional Divorce

The husband’s condition (as you wrote in Bengali): “if I bring his name or mean koro or sathe happy chilam tahole talaq hobe” – which he later clarified means not saying a specific line verbally (not merely thinking or intending in the heart). In Islamic jurisprudence, a conditional divorce is bound by the explicit wording and the intention of the person who uttered it. The condition is interpreted according to the custom (‘urf) and the clear understanding of both parties.

Key principle:

• The condition only applies to voluntary, intentional speech or action that clearly refers to the prohibited person.
• Internal thoughts, passing memories, or unintentional utterances do not count as a violation.

The Prophet ﷺ said:

“Indeed, Allah has forgiven my Ummah for what occurs in their minds, as long as they do not speak or act upon it.”
(Sahih al-Bukhari, 2528; Sahih Muslim, 127)

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah said:

“The conditional divorce is only fulfilled when the condition is met by a deliberate action or speech. If something occurs without intention or by mistake, it does not count.”
(Majmu‘ al-Fatawa, 33/195)

2. Singing a Song with Lyrics that Mention the Person

Your situations:

• You sang the song “I Thought I Saw Your Face Today” and the lyrics happened to match a situation involving that person.
• You later sang “what broke you once made you strong” and while singing you remembered that person.
• In both cases, you did not intend to talk about or address that person. The memory came involuntarily.

Ruling:
This does not break the condition. The condition requires deliberate mention. Singing a song without the intention of referring to that specific person is not “talking about” him. Even if the lyrics coincidentally fit, your heart was not directing it at him.

Shaykh Ibn Baz (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked about a similar situation and replied:

“If a person says something that could refer to someone else but did not intend that person, it is not a violation of the oath or condition. The intent is what matters.”
(Fatawa Islamiyyah, 3/309)

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said:

“The condition is about explicit mention, not about what comes to mind unintentionally.”
(Sharh al-Mumti‘, 13/215)

Conclusion: Singing those songs without deliberately meaning that person does not trigger the talaq.

3. Remembering the Person While Singing

A passing memory, a glimpse of the person in your mind, or thinking about him while singing is not a violation. The condition is about speech, not thoughts. The Prophet ﷺ explicitly stated that Allah forgives what occurs in the mind as long as it is not spoken or acted upon.

Shaykh al-Albani said:

“The conditional divorce is not fulfilled by mere thoughts, because divorce is only valid when it is uttered or written with clear intention.”
(Silsilah al-Ahadith al-Sahihah, 1/247)

Conclusion: Your internal recollection does not break the condition.

4. Showing the Husband the Screenshot and Asking About the Condition

You showed your husband the message and asked, “By the word ‘mean’ what do you mean?” He replied that he meant not saying that line verbally. This action is not “talking about” the prohibited person. It is clarifying the condition itself, which is permissible and even encouraged to avoid confusion.

Ruling:
Asking about the condition, showing the screenshot, and discussing its meaning does not violate the condition. The condition only forbids mentioning that specific person; it does not forbid asking about the condition.

Shaykh Salih al-Fawzan said:

“If a person makes a condition about not speaking of someone, then asking about that condition or clarifying it is not included in the prohibition, because it is a different subject.”
(Al-Muntaqa min Fatawa al-Fawzan, 3/112)

Conclusion: This action is permissible and does not break the talaq.

5. Complaining to Your Husband About Himself While Intending the Forbidden Line in Your Heart

You ask: if you say something to your husband (e.g., a complaint about him) but in your heart you intend the meaning of the prohibited line, does that break the condition?

Ruling:
No, it does not break the condition. The condition requires verbal utterance of that specific line or mention of that person. Your internal intention, even if it matches the prohibited line, is not a violation because you did not say it. The condition is about speech, not hidden intention.

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) wrote:

“The conditional divorce is only triggered by what is said or done outwardly, not by what is hidden in the heart.”
(I‘lam al-Muwaqqi‘in, 3/54)

Conclusion: Complaining to your husband with a different wording, even if your heart intends the forbidden line, does not fulfill the condition. The marriage remains intact.

Final Fatwa and Advice

Based on the above, none of the situations you described break the conditional divorce. Your marriage is still valid, and no talaq has occurred. You are not sinful for any of these actions.

Important advice regarding waswasa (OCD-like doubts):
You are clearly suffering from severe doubts and obsessive thoughts (waswasa). The scholars strongly advise turning away from such whispers. The Prophet ﷺ said:

“The Shaytan comes to one of you and says, ‘Who created this? Who created that?’ until he says, ‘Who created Allah?’ So if anyone experiences that, let him seek refuge with Allah and stop such thoughts.”
(Sahih al-Bukhari, 3276)

Shaykh Ibn Taymiyyah said:

“Whoever is afflicted with waswasa should ignore it completely and not act upon it. If he does so, it will not harm him.”
(Majmu‘ al-Fatawa, 10/257)

Practical steps:

• Do not repeat your question or investigate further.
• Assume the condition is not broken unless you are absolutely certain (not just 90% sure) that you deliberately and verbally mentioned that person.
• If you are uncertain, the default is that the condition has not been triggered. Divorce is only established with certainty.
• Occupy yourself with remembrance of Allah, prayer, and good deeds to ward off these whispers.

And Allah knows best.

Answered by: Salafi/Ahl-e-Hadith Fiqh Council
References: Qur’an (2:286), Sahih al-Bukhari, Sahih Muslim, Majmu‘ al-Fatawa of Ibn Taymiyyah, I‘lam al-Muwaqqi‘in of Ibn al-Qayyim, Fatawa of Ibn Baz, Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, al-Albani, and al-Fawzan.