I have waswasa about my husband’s condition talaq
Waswasa-OCD · Ahle Hadith / Salafi
Question
Situation 2. My husband gave a condition talaq about not talking with someone with love intention or someone from the past whom I've liked or they liked . So in past our neighbor aunty tried to my mom so that my mom give me to her son. But my mother denied so did I. But later I did search his account on fb cz I was curious ( it was before my marriage) then I found his id but didn't do anything cz I was like wth I'm doing I don't even like him. But maybe at certain point I did find him good looking but nothing personal love intention. Ok so now today I saw him in road he ask me how are you I said well brother and give a decent smile and left . But I'm scared about the past things all over . As I have waswasa massive so please give me a solution.
So I don't know if he liked me or not but hypothetically even if he like me which I don't know in that case does the condition broken. Important notice also (I recalled everything from the past and I'm 99% sure I didn't liked him that way)
Important notice ( in past I did try to talk with him and find his account then I say to myself I don't like him that way (like I'll marry him or something I don't like him that way) so that's it and it was 3 years ago so I don't even remember my actual intention at that point of time) I'm so scared now also the condition was about not talking to someone from the past whomever liked me or I liked (it's basically linkd to even before marriage if anyone liked me or I liked included those people) please answer after understanding my situation I have waswasa and I don't want to talk to any mufti personally it's not possible for me so you give me solution
( This situation happened yesterday)
Answer
Bismillah al-Rahman al-Rahim
We have reviewed your question. You are suffering from severe waswasa (obsessive doubts), and you need a clear, Shari’ah-based answer that follows the Salafi manhaj (Ahl al-Hadith). We will answer based on the Qur’an, authentic Sunnah, and the statements of the senior scholars: Ibn Taymiyyah, Ibn al-Qayyim, Ibn Baz, al-Albani, Ibn Uthaymeen, and Salih al-Fawzan.
Important principle: Conditional talaq (ta’liq) is only triggered when the condition is intentionally and fully fulfilled with the forbidden intention. Accidental, doubtful, or past actions (before the condition was made) do not break the condition. Waswasa is from Shaytan and must be ignored.
Situation 1
Condition: “Do not massage anyone with love intention” and “do not talk to anyone with love intention.”
Your action: You searched for someone’s account out of curiosity (no intention to talk or show love). You later spoke to a scholar for a fatwa.
Ruling:
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Searching for an ID out of curiosity, without any intention to speak or express love, does NOT break the condition.
→ The condition is tied to “massaging/talking with love intention.”
→ Ibn Taymiyyah said: “The validity of an oath or condition depends on the intention of the person who made it. If the condition is linked to a specific intention, it is not broken by mere actions without that intention.” (Majmu’ al-Fatawa, 33/123)
→ Al-Albani (رحمه الله) said: “Do not burden yourself with doubts; faith is built on certainty, not suspicion.” (Silsilah al-Ahadith al-Sahihah, 1/682) -
Talking to a scholar for fatwa is permissible and does not violate the condition.
→ The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Seeking knowledge is an obligation upon every Muslim.” (Ibn Majah, Sahih)
→ You were asking about your situation, not speaking with love intention.
Conclusion: Your condition is NOT broken. The previous fatwa from Mufti Waliullah remains correct even after you mentioned the search part.
Situation 2
Condition: “Do not talk with someone from the past whom I liked or who liked me, with love intention.”
Your actions:
- Years before marriage, you searched his FB account out of curiosity (no love intention).
- Yesterday you met him on the road, he greeted you, you replied “Well brother” with a decent smile and left.
Ruling:
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The past search (before marriage and before the condition was given) is irrelevant.
→ The condition only applies after it was uttered. What happened before is not included.
→ Even if you had a slight attraction at that time, it does not affect the condition because it was not a violation of the condition that did not yet exist. -
Yesterday’s encounter:
- You did not initiate the conversation.
- You replied with “Well brother” – this is a normal, permissible greeting.
- You smiled politely and left.
- There was no love intention, no flirting, no prolonged talk.
→ This does not break the condition.
→ Ibn Uthaymeen said: “Normal greetings and brief, necessary talk without desire or forbidden emotion do not violate a condition that is about love or romance.” (Fatawa Islamiyyah, 3/234)
→ Even if he liked you in the past (which you do not know), that does not affect you. The condition is about your intention and action, not about his hidden feelings.
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Your waswasa:
You are 99% sure you never liked him. The remaining 1% is from Shaytan.
→ The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “When a person has waswasa, let him say ‘Aamantu billah’ (I believe in Allah) and stop dwelling on it.” (Muslim)
→ Ibn al-Qayyim said: “Waswasa is a trap of Shaytan to destroy a person’s peace. The cure is to ignore it completely and not act upon it.” (Madarij al-Salikin, 1/430)
Conclusion: Your condition is NOT broken. You have done nothing wrong.
General Advice for Waswasa
- Do not repeat the question. You already received a fatwa. Going back and forth is from Shaytan.
- Ignore the whispers. Every time you doubt, say: “I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed Shaytan” and move on.
- Do not investigate past intentions. You do not need to remember what you thought 3 years ago. Allah does not hold you accountable for forgetfulness or unclear memories.
→ Allah says: “Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred.” (Qur’an 2:286) – and He answered: “I have done so.” (Muslim) - Trust the scholars. If a reliable mufti (like Mufti Waliullah) gave you a ruling, accept it and stop worrying.
- Increase in dhikr and prayer. Waswasa decreases with strong iman and ignoring Shaytan’s whispers.
Final Answer
- Situation 1: Not broken.
- Situation 2: Not broken.
- Your marriage is safe. Do not let Shaytan destroy your peace.
May Allah remove your waswasa and grant you tranquility. Ameen.