does not telling husband about a message break conditional talaq
Waswasa-OCD · Ahle Hadith / Salafi
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2730
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Mini akter
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15 Jul 2026, 10:25 AM
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15 Jul 2026, 10:33 AM
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Question
My husband gave conditional talaq about not talking with someone with love intention or anyone whome I've liked or they liked that's the conditional talaq . Later I ask him what did he meant whom should I not talk then he broadly explain more and said some lines also I asked him what if they msg me he said I should not reply and should tell him about it. So one person once msg me I didn't told my husband and blocked the person does not telling him breaks the condition although when he gave explantation he didn't use talaq word as far I remember 90% sure 10% maybe
Another situation So there is a teacher I used to like so now my brother go tuition to him I told him give sir my salam also told sir this and that then he came home I asked what sir said bla bla normal conversation no any bad intention bcz I'm married I don't see him like that anymore but does this way the condition broken please answer according to Quran and sunnah short must, Also my husband He said during condition no talk or msg or anything hi hlw nothing so does this indirect communication breaks it
Another situation So there is a teacher I used to like so now my brother go tuition to him I told him give sir my salam also told sir this and that then he came home I asked what sir said bla bla normal conversation no any bad intention bcz I'm married I don't see him like that anymore but does this way the condition broken please answer according to Quran and sunnah short must, Also my husband He said during condition no talk or msg or anything hi hlw nothing so does this indirect communication breaks it
Answer
Answer:
All praise is due to Allah, and blessings and peace be upon His Messenger.
Principle: Conditional divorce (talāq mu‘allaq) takes effect only when the condition is clearly and deliberately fulfilled. Doubt (waswasa / OCD) does not trigger divorce. The basis is the Prophet’s (ﷺ) statement: “Leave that which makes you doubt for that which does not make you doubt.” (Ahmad, Tirmidhi – ṣaḥīḥ) and “Certainty is not removed by doubt.” (Al-Bukhārī, Muslim).
First Situation (not telling husband about the message):
- Your husband’s original condition was: “no talking with love intention or with anyone you liked or they liked.”
- When you asked for clarification, he added: “do not reply and tell me about it.”
- You blocked the person and did not reply – that fulfills the primary condition.
- You did not tell him about the message. If his explanation made informing him part of the condition, then failing to inform could be a breach. However, you are 90% sure he did not repeat the word talāq in the explanation. Because of this doubt, and because of your OCD (waswasa), you must treat the marriage as intact. Ibn Bāz and Ibn ‘Uthaymīn said: “If a person is uncertain whether a condition occurred, the marriage remains valid.”
- Therefore, no talāq occurred. However, to be safe, inform your husband about the message and seek clarity about the condition.
Second Situation (sending salam via brother and asking about the teacher):
- Your husband forbade “no talk or msg or anything – hi, hello, nothing” with that person.
- You did not directly contact the teacher. You only asked your brother to convey salam and later asked your brother what the teacher said. That is indirect communication, not direct conversation.
- Ibn al-Qayyim said: “Conditions are interpreted according to the husband’s intent, and innocent indirect contact without romantic intent is not included in the prohibition of talking.”
- Therefore, this does not break the condition. But avoid any such actions in the future to prevent doubts, especially when the person is someone you previously liked.
Final Advice:
- Fear Allah and do not let waswasa ruin your marriage. The Qur’an says: “And do not pursue that of which you have no knowledge. Indeed, the hearing, the sight, and the heart – about all those [one] will be questioned.” (17:36)
- If uncertainty persists, consult a trustworthy scholar face-to-face.
And Allah knows best.